The Auto-Rejection Mechanism is a principle in many people’s lives.
Basically, if you believe that you can’t have something, you will tend to rationalize that you don’t want it so that you can be happy and comfy inside.
“I don’t want what I can’t get.”
Since our beliefs on what we can have, or deserve to have, are often deeply conditioned this principle dictates much of what we see as even being possible.
This principle can be observed in matters of romance: from casual dating to marriage, or work and careers.